How to Heal: Getting Unstuck from the Pattern
Have you ever experienced déjà vu, except it wasn’t some weird phenomenon because it wasn’t just the feeling that this has happened before; it actually did happen before?
For example, have you ever been in a romantic relationship, broke up, got with someone new, and then it felt the same as your previous relationship? Upon further reflection, you realized you were in the same relationship—similar dynamics and points of tension, just a different person playing your partner. Or maybe you have experienced this with work. You get a new job because the last one was toxic AF, but then the new one becomes a clone of the old one, just with new characters.
Here’s what I have seen with this kind of patterning. It keeps repeating until:
We learn the lesson we were supposed to learn in the first place. Perhaps we couldn’t because we were in denial, lacked self-awareness, or simply weren’t ready to learn. Energetic patterns repeat until they are resolved by completing the lesson of that “level.” Think of a video game where you can’t go to the next level until you complete all the pieces of the current one. If you are stuck in a cycle, consider what you are missing. What is the lesson?
~ and/or, becomes sometimes it’s both~
We discover a new opportunity that was only made available to us as a result of experiencing the hardship of multiple hits. Perhaps experiencing the contrast multiple times is what makes us finally open up to a specific opportunity, like going back to school, taking a course, traveling to a specific place, changing career sectors, etc. It seems as if the frustration of the repeated challenges is what opens us up to something we would have otherwise never considered.
Keep in mind that YOU may not be able to see the root cause and will likely need support from trusted loved ones who can help you see things more objectively. Consider if any friends or family members have been trying to get you to see something you have been in denial about. Sometimes, it’s easier to know when you are on the outside b/c those pesky (lol) emotions aren’t in the way. At the same time, trust your gut, as you are in charge of your own life.
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