How to Heal: Time Does Not Heal

I know the saying “time heals all wounds” can be satisfying at the moment but that’s it—at the moment. It might provide temporary relief and sometimes that’s what we most need so it is a good coping mechanism. Sometimes we are just trying to keep our head above water.

But let’s be clear that true healing does not happen until the root of the issue is fully acknowledged and addressed. We can forget, even for decades, but the pain will likely resurface in the future—probably when you least expect it.

After trauma or shock, we may not be in a space to confront it right away and so we may need some distance (via time or space) before we can muster the energetic courage to take it on.

Take the time you need so the distance can gift you some perspective and clarity but do your best to address it once you can.

Was that lay-off really an indictment on your worth as a person?

How did each person contribute to the dynamic that led to the breakup?

What did (insert anything that does not feel good) help you to better understand about yourself, your needs, and the world around you?

Don’t skip to the reflection part and start overthinking again. For now, just create. And if you need additional support/guidance/encouragement, check out this blog post on healing from impatience or this one on overthinking.

May you find patience and grace for yourself.  

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